Who am I?
I’m a psychotherapist, husband, father, musician and part-time military behavioral science officer. I’m also a coffee drinker and a writer. My new book, Relationship Repair for Men, is now available.
I value connection, authenticity, and doing my best. I care about about making a difference in my clients’ lives.
My journey
When I was a kid growing up in a troubled home, I found peace in martial arts and music. I was amazed at how engaging my mind and body in these activities helped me experience peace, even amidst the fear and anger that seemed almost constant in my life. The quest for a deeper understanding of emotional freedom and mastery included living and studying in Asia, military service and working as a social worker for terminally ill patients and military veterans.
Along the way, my first marriage failed after trying for 10 years. I sought answers, and came to realize I wasn’t alone. It is normal for men to feel alone and unaware of how to show up in relationships so that they’ll stay loving, and even grow closer.
What I’ve learned since then has informed much of my work.
My Approach
I adapt evidence-based therapies to best fit your goals, needs and preferences. Your therapy is about you, what you want to achieve, and what you feel comfortable with.
Whether we’re applying EMDR to resolve past traumas, a more flexible tool such as Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, or conversationally processing your thoughts and feelings, my job is to support you in having an experience that feels right for you while ensuring the experience can facilitate your healing.
My mission
To support men in thriving by helping them to:
*Respond well when difficult emotions arise during their daily lives, so they can act according to their values instead of their fears.
*Heal from the effects of traumas and living through other damaging situations in order to remove the psychological blocks that are preventing them from living their best lives.
*Learn how to engage in all areas of their lives, especially in their relationships, in ways that will honor their values and deepest desires.