If your wife or girlfriend seems less interested in you… if she avoids sex with you… if she’s she stopped prioritizing you…
If she roll her eyes at you or give you the silent treatment…
If your relationship is in trouble and you feel powerless to do anything about it…
This book will help you.
This book can help you improve your relationship.
Stacey Steinmiller, LCSW, Psychotherapist and Coach
“I believe this book is highly needed for men to have a great resource to develop or transform their relationships. Highly recommended.”
Andy Martin, LPC, Psychotherapist
“Excellent read with an emphasis of how wants and needs can be met without coming across as aggressive, tone deaf, and/or critical of one’s spouse. The message in the book is refined without being highly abstract. In essence, while counterintuitive is in the title the pragmatic approach is appreciated and contained from beginning to end!”
Counterintuitive solutions
If your relationship is in trouble, you won't fix it by doing what you've always done. Or what seems normal, or intuitive. You'll need to learn some new ideas and new behaviors.
The good news is that these ideas and behaviors are not difficult to learn.
Dr. Chris Ferguson PhD, Professor of Psychology at Stetson University
“Overall, men get relatively little advice on relationships, and particularly in the era in which unhelpful terms like "toxic masculinity" are becoming popularized, men are getting a lot of bad advice. I think this is a great resource for men to turn to where they can get good, high quality advice, thoughtfully offered.”
You are not alone
Many men feel powerless in their relationships, because...
... MANY men unknowingly do things that result in their wives or girlfriends distancing themselves and feeling less attracted.
Couples don't grow apart: people do things in their relationships that drive each other apart. Many of these things things seem little, or normal.
As you read it, you will learn how to:
identify behaviors that may have unintentionally pushed her away
show up authentically in your relationship, so that she feels your presence
overcome approval-seeking behaviors
respond to rude, hostile or unloving behavior from your significant other
understand the meaning behind passive aggressive behaviors
be someone she's more likely to love and respect
know with certainty whether to stay with her, or leave the relationship.