If you’re concerned that your partner’s incompetence is a ploy to get out of doing shared tasks, it’s not a good idea to voice that accusation. In this article, we talk about to do instead.

Why men face an uphill battle when it comes to finding a therapist who can really help them. And why men are great at therapy when they find the right therapist.

The solution to a partner’s overwhelm isn’t obvious. It’s not just about “doing more” so that she can do less. It’s about taking action to improve the whole situation.

Today, as I turn 45 years old, my wish is to more fully embrace the attitude that my life is not about what the world throws in my direction, but how I respond to it. I want to embrace this attitude with such conviction that I feel no desire for my troubles to vanish, but instead feel a sincere and complete gratitude for the challenges as opportunities to learn and grow stronger.

Often, when we’re urgently needing a result, we’re not in the best state for achieving that result. This is most true when our goal is to connect with or influence others. Whether we’re calling it "neediness," "desperation," or “coming from a place of scarcity,” a state of urgent need doesn't empower you. You are not more likely to get the relationship, the friend, the job, the promotion or the client, when your urgent need has you behaving as if the option in front of you is your last chance.

Anger is a powerful experience and we are often not at our best when we respond to it.

Most of us dads live at one extreme or another with regards to experiencing our feelings. One extreme is to disconnect. No feelings. We have too much to do. There’s no time to feel feelings.  And the feelings are painful, so why would we want to? Or we find ourselves immersed in our feelings. We yell when we’re mad, or complain when we feel ignored. We tell people on social media to “F^@% OFF” when we feel offended by their stupidity.

Your ability to mindfully feel your emotions is your source of personal power. When you can't do that, then anything that triggers your emotions has power over you. But when you can allow your feelings to be present, you have the power to choose how you respond to the challenging situations that elicit your emotions.

For the sake of clarifying why I think it is important to provide psychotherapy to men, I want to compare men to my dog Lenny.

Developing healthy boundaries benefits your self-esteem, peace of mind and feelings of efficacy. And having boundaries is also a result of those positive inner states. Alternatively, if our boundaries have been lacking or weak, that can mean there's some struggle with feelings of self-worth or other unresolved emotional challenges.